I have recently had a few clients open up to me about their birthing experiences and have shared the information that they elected to have a c-section due to personal reasons. Whether they suffer anxiety and the thought of a vaginal birth triggers those anxiety, the fear of the unknown from a natural birth is daunting or due to a previous traumatic experience, some women just do not want to have a vaginal birth.
With these clients, I listened and we discussed their choice in detail. We covered the reasons behind their preference to birth by caesarean and how this was actually supportive of their mental health. I reminded each client that they were strong and brave for informing their medical staff of their wants and needs and further taking the steps to achieve their wishes.
The drive for a 'natural physiological' birth is evident and the encouragement and guidance for women to achieve their desires is strongly available but what about the non-judgemental support and planning for those women who CHOOSE to have a c-section due to their personal reasons? I believe that this is a factor in the birthing world that is lacking and women are hesitant to speak up about their needs and wants. They are even hesitant to share their experiences due to the fear of being judged. In fact, one client even said, “I don’t like telling people I chose to have a c-section as I feel judged that I didn’t have a normal birth”. This is not acceptable and women should be supported in any birth.
Undoubtedly there needs to be more support for women who opt to have a caesarean for whatever THEIR reasons. It is so important to me that each woman is guided and encouraged to achieve the birth she wants. And this is why I have moulded my practicing to support, prepare and educate women to have a caesarean birth that is as close to a natural physiological birth as they desire. Women need to feel in control, have rights and preferences no matter HOW they birth their babies.
Above all, the emotions and feelings of a Mother and her partner around a caesarean birth need to be respected and considered. They need to be heard and ever effort should be made to make the woman feel comfortable and at peace with her decision. Whilst medical professionals perform c-sections regularly, the non-medical side of this surgery can often be forgotten. The environment in the woman-centred space and the birth of her baby is special and should be treated as so. The birthing mother and her wishes should always be made a priority.
My Doula Support Package encompass the nurturing and nourishing of women preparing for a caesarean birth and are finely tuned to prepare the mind, body and emotions. During our time together, we can focus on pregnancy exercise and stretches, breathing, affirmations and a positive birth space. I will sit with you and work through the creation of a birth plan which outlines your c-section wishes. We will detail the WAY in which you go to theatre, your preferred caesarean birth, post-birth requests such as who announces the gender of your baby and cord-clamping, and your postnatal care. There are so many areas to address and consider when planning a caesarean birth that you wish for.
If you are preparing for a c-section birth and feel like you need a support person who will educate, support and guide you to achieve the most private and respected caesarean birth, then please contact me. I’d love to have a non-judgemental and open chat to discuss my services.
My name is Shereen Nielsen and I am a certified infant and child sleep coach and Birth and Postpartum Doula. I am also a lecturer and mentor for students on their journey towards becoming a Sleep Consultant, through my on-line internationally recognised sleep consultants course.
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